Hello. I’m Helen. I live on the edge of Ilkley Moor, made famous by the song on ‘Ilkley Moot Baht ‘at’ a cautionary tale of what will happen if you go out on Ilkley Moor without your hat. I live with my partner of 35 years and our two sons and their partners and two beautiful little granddaughters all live quite close. Enough of that though this is the story of me and the work I do through Harmoney my practice.
I’m on a mission to help women create healthy and confident relationships with money. I’ve met so many women who secretly squirm with embarrassment and dread about their money, carrying money secrets they are scared of exposing. I’ve also seen many women face their fears and get to grips with money after many years of avoiding it. Often the motivation to face money gremlins comes about when things are changing in life, maybe because of divorce or the loss of a life partner. This is the point when a woman realises she needs to take charge.
Money and our relationship with it intrigues me. How come someone heavily in debt can’t put the brakes on when it seems glaringly obvious as a solution? Why does someone who has been left a huge legacy feel terrified of spending any of her inheritance? How come the little girl whose missionary parents made a vow of poverty finds she too, as a grown woman, has unconsciously taken this vow by proxy. So many questions!
What brought me to this work
- Family Issues around money that caused a rift which was very difficult to bridge but none the less lit the spark in me to discover more about money, the underbelly, which ultimately led to becoming a Certified Money Coach and a new career
- A lifelong love of numbers, adding up, taking away and all that jazz.
- A TV programme quite a few years ago called ‘Money or Your Life’ presented by Alvin Hall where he helped and supported people through all manner of financial trauma which intrigued me.
- A career that had given me bucket loads of experience, going back years, in social work, teaching, careers guidance and women’s issues.
- Throughout my career, I have worked with women as clients, students and colleagues and when I look back I have been at my best and most fulfilled when I have been making a difference to women.
My integrity and my own particular beliefs and twists on money.
- I don’t buy into get rich quick schemes. There is no such thing as a quick fix for money stuff that you have spent years (often unconsciously) learning.
- I don’t offer financial advice or sell financial products.
- Openness, patience, perseverance and mindfulness are all prerequisites for creating a great new way with money.
- Love it or loathe it, ‘Money’ as my mentor Deborah Price says ‘is a core survival issue.’ It is the means by which we get our basic need for food, warmth and shelter met.
- Getting curious about your way with money opens the doors and creates new pathways towards prosperity. Flexing you money curiosity muscles is well worth getting into as part of your overall well-being routine.
- Living a rich life isn’t only about how much money there is in the bank, it’s about having a life that is rich in all those things that give your life meaning and purpose. Money needs to be given its rightful place, no more and no less.
- Never put off creating your ‘rich’ life until you have more money. Start to create it now.
- Allowing money and its meaning out of the closet and into the open will help end the taboo about money in our world, along with the guilt, shame and secrecy that lurks in the shadows. It’s a lonely place when you think you are the only one. There is power in knowing you are not alone and will be supported.
- Hearing someone say. ‘That’s it! I’ve had enough! I’m ready to get out of this rut.’ Gives me a real boost because I know this person is ready to do the work they need to do to create a great relationship with money. ‘Yeah baby!’ as my 7 year old niece wrote on the latest drawing she did for me.
Please help: Secrecy and shame about money are the biggest factors that stop women seeking support in addition to simply not knowing that help is out there. Please share and help spread the word that healthy and confident relationships with money are possible.